STEPS: Therapeutic Interaction Model
For an updated and expanded version of the model, visit this link to the 20-page booklet: https://boonechristianson.blogspot.com/2022/08/steps-booklet.html?m=1 And the 5 minute video version: https://youtu.be/T7l7D1ukw0c STEPS:Therapeutic Interaction Model You don’t know what to do when your partner or child has a reaction that seems totally disproportional to the situation. When you try to be rational, the person becomes LESS rational, and a fight breaks out. The goal in any healthy relationship is to create mutual happiness. We can do this by showing love, THEN, if necessary, helping people change their thinking and behavior, not vice-versa. We do not show love by making them change. We could try to force changes in behavior through coercion, shaming, or fear, but this undermines the ultimate goal, and doesn't create lasting change anyway. So, our priority is to help someone feel safe, NOT to teach, challenge, critique, fix, or get a certain behavior. If you feel safe, you are