When to Walk Away
A common question presented in therapy, and that I imagine most people face, is when to call it quits on a relationship. As a therapist, I try not to tell people what to do or not do regarding relationship status, but I may pose certain questions or provide education to help people make those decisions deliberately and according to their core values. The following thoughts may help you gain clarity as you decide whether to stay in certain relationships. First, I want to identify a few things that DON'T have to be deal breakers, but sometimes are if people don’t know about them or don’t take enough time to think about them. “ The ICK”. Though this term has many definitions in the Urban Dictionary, here it refers to a rapid decline in interest, or spike in aversion, of a potential partner due to trivial or unknown reasons (e.g., not asking her out again after seeing her leg hair, or after hearing his unique laugh). For us, the ICK refers to something inside YOU that needs to be exp...